priddy on thu 25 may 00
The idea that people should send hate mail received as a result of being =
on
clayart back to the list so that Chief can ban that person is
abhorent to me.
I think it is not a good idea, to put it mildly. I have a few emails =
that I have saved that came from an individual that surprised the heck =
out of me with their hateful pettiness and sheer meanness. The idle
viciousness of their comments made me sick due to the hypocritical =
sweetness of the person online. I felt like they were some kind of =
monster to seem so sane when posting and so vile and bileous when =
writing to me personally. I tried to give them the respect they get =
from me due to the way I was raised, but it didn't work. I eventually =
wrote to them telling them to stop reading my posts and stop writing to =
me. I got 14 emails from that person in a 24 hour period recently. =
This person is called on other newsgroup lists, a troll. But you would =
never know their troll nature by reading the group. Note that I can talk=
about my troll without mentioning the troll by name. It is much better
this way. Some people really really like the troll and I don't want to =
burst their bubble. Troll is gender neutral. "Trolling" is someone who
reads a group looking for a fight, by the way. (if you did not send me =
many hate filled messages recently, you are not my troll, don't be =
paranoid!)
The point of this is: there are trolls here too. Banning them will not =
work. Ignoring them personally will. A kill file on your personal mail =
reader that automatically blocks their message from getting in your box =
is the best solution. They won't exist for you anymore. That is the onl=
y
answer that will work and also optimize freedom on the list. Mel is doing=
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a good job. Trolls are hard to detect. Like pedophiles, they seem normal=
unless you happen to be their target. I enjoy reading my troll's posts
and other people's posts about my troll because I am amused by the =
duplicitous gall of it. Your troll can't enjoy your suffering if you =
don't react to them, and they will move on.
Some folks on the list might not enjoy the fact that I post too much. =
They can delete my posts. That is good for me. A normal person will =
stop reading things that make them angry enough to try to inflict pain =
on someone else. Trolls do not, they are cowards who try to change your =
actions to suit them, to make you post less. They get their jollies =
trying to control and manipulate other people. Don't let them win.
I have become quite friendly with several people that I have been =
embroiled in bitter debate with. And the troll that I referred to =
earlier has never said a mean thing about me publicly. You are only =
seeing what people WANT you to see on the list. It is by reaching out =
to people you meet here offline that you truly begin to make friends =
and really harvest the gold that is the Clayart List. =
Don't let the trolls stop you from mining your gold!
respectfully submitted,
elizabeth priddy
priddy-clay@usa.net
http:www.angelfire.com/nc/clayworkshop
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